A Prayer

im reading my email and ready to scream,
Another set back in this long drawn out process
The angry mama bear is starting to rise up in me
What have i not done, what would i not give
To get this sorted

My defenses are up and im ready for battle
 i take  a deep breath and let it out slowly
 im left with deep sadness

I offer up a prayer to G-d
I turn to my friends to carry that plea
Because i cannot do it alone

Carry my prayers heavenward
My hopes and dreams for tomorrow
So that we'll have what we need
For the people we were created to be
For the people we were created to care for
And for the people we hope to become

Im still staring into the unknown
My queries Not yet answered
I know not how and when
But im at peace because Hashem's got it covered

Camp Gan Yisroel

There are countless Gan Yisroel camps all over the world, all inspired by Gan Yisroel Parksville, the brain-child of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, all run by His emissaries and therefore infused with his energy, power and blessings. As a child i attended them, as a teenager i worked in them, and now that my child is of age, he gets to be a Gan Yisroel camper too.

Being that yossi is a special needs child i never thought it possible, but thanks to the K2BK  (kool to be kind) pilot program, Yossi is now a virtual camper at Camp Gan Yisroel of Martin/S. Lucie County Florida and we are seeing the Rebbe;s blessings first hand.

After a wonderful time last year, receiving videos and projects from the campers, Yossi started off the season by donning his camp t-shirt and joining a spirited line-up on the first day of camp via video chat. yossi has been having trouble verbalizing lately (side effect of one of his meds)  so he just watched smiling from ear to ear. however the minute we hung up he clearly asked 'more more'  so we were compelled to call right back and the phone was passed around among  the campers much to his delight.

i never knew that speech therapy was included but you can never underestimate the power of jewish children and the power of a rebbe!  yossi gets so excited every time we say 'camp gan izzy' and we cant to see what else this season has in store!

From Florida with Love

Our annual trip to Florida as become a ritual of sorts.  we visit with relatives during the week and then go for shabbos to visit a bunch of friends all concentrated in one area. i really look forward to this trip its a chance to recharge and maintain connections with the people we love. 

I like my friend's shul too. the rabbi is very welcoming and there is a great mix of lovely friendly people in attendance.  on our most recent trip, a gentleman i dont know approached us at the kiddush.  as he started to ask about yossi's age and condition i was expecting to be bombarded with tons of nosy questions and unsolicited medical advice.

 i was completely floored when he said the following:

'i see that yossi really likes the electronic toy he is playing with . our child has alot of these types of toys  and with the recent birth of our second child, our friends gave us even more. we have so many and we dont need them- can we ship you a box for yossi to enjoy?' 

to say i was caught  off guard is an understatement. the offer was unexpected, humbling, and encourgaing.  how very wonderful and thoughtful this man is. his children are very fortunate to have such a perceptive parent and with any luck they will grow up to be as kind and selfless as he. 

this week the promised box came in the mail along with a gift card to purchase more items. yossi was excited about everything in the box and has already picked out his favorite.  and as for me, im overcome with emotion, watching yossi play and feeling the love all the way from florida.

ER Adventure

Well i knew we would end up in the hospital again at some point. We had a nice 2 year hiatus but life happens and we just roll with it. I Thank G-d from the bottom of my heart that it was NOT seizure related which is new for us and reassuring in a very weird way.

We sat down late and Yossi choked on his first bite of dinner- a cucumber- leaving his air way partially compromised. Thank G-d he was able to breathe the entire time and he didnt change color but he was clearly in distress. his body slackened, his head down and drool and mucus pouring out of his nose and mouth.

A call to Hatzalah brought an ambulance and several volunteers one of whom remembered us (and we remembered them) from the local hatzalah fundraiser in september. At that event we had  made a point  of introducing Yossi to local members in a non emergency setting. im glad we did because in the time of emergency it was calming to have help from some who was slightly familiar with us already.

As divine providence would have it  a pediatric ER doctor  was visiting his sister that lives on our block.   he saw the hatzalah members and followed them up the stairs to assist. he called ahead to his colleague to advise him of our arrival. i had never seen him before and i dont know his sister but we were grateful for his help.

En-route to the hospital the cucumber became dislodged from Yossi's throat and i was able to fish it out of his mouth. with his airway cleared he began to relax and feel better waving his hands as he normally does.  by the time we arrived in the ER yossi was sitting up on the stretcher and rocking it to and fro.

We were in the ER for a couple of hours just to do a chest xray and monitor his vitals to make sure everything went back to normal.  the hatzalah members were quite happy to have a printed sheet with yossi's information cuz it meant they could go home first and write the report later. the hospital nurse was also happy- having everything already written was much quicker and easier for her. it also simplified my life- i was able to focus on yossi instead of having to remember details about medications and medical history while i was frazzled and pre-occupied. hurray for printed lists!!

Even at its fastest an ER visit still takes a couple of hours (plus the drive to the hospital and the time leading up to that)  so my planned night out went down the drain.  i was so bummed to miss our shul's challah bake. i dont often get out to events and shiurim and i was looking forward to a nice evening.  well i got an evening out- a little more than i bargained for.

 My friend was visiting for Shabbos that week and decided to take over my kitchen and whip up a batch of Challah dough. she asked me if i would like to make the bracha. that was very sweet of her and kind of made up for missing the shul program. ( im so lucky to have such amazing and thoughtful friends)

Fortunately choking is a rare occurrence for yossi. (only choked once before at age 2 when he swallowed a triangular kippah clip) we normally cut his food into small bites and he has no problem. it just happened that he accidentally got a large piece of cucumber on this night.  We're thankful for hatzlah and the great hospital staff and we're all relieved to be home and healthy and moving on to more happy (hopefully) adventures!

Big Apple Kindness

Amusement rides, arcades and climbing mazes are virtually a rite of passage for children these days. most children can boast having partaken in at least one of these activities. special needs children are no different so on a recent sunday i loaded yossi in the car and we headed to Funstation- our local amusement venue.

i called ahead to ask a few questions because we'd never been before- i got sweet clear responses and i was grateful to hear that the place wasnt so full.  still i was in trouble the moment yossi spied all the flashing lights. he was off running and crawling in all directions while i tried to understand the packages for purchase and the 2 different token machines one for rides and one for arcades.

the lady at the front desk (incidentally she was  a manager)  immediately jumped in giving me an unlimited wristband and tokens .  she told me to go around and try out the different attractions, see what  yossi was able to do, and square away my bill at the end.

grateful for her thoughtfulness i accepted the wristband and off we went stress free to enjoy a fun day out.  yossi had a great time exploring and i had a wonderful time just focusing on him. after riding the helicopter for the 5th time in a row i was starting to get dizzy and id had quite enough of the noise and the lights so we returned to the front to pay.  as i approached the counter the manager told me "this one is on us" to which i replied  "im happy to pay" and she then said "he has a big smile, seems like he had a good time, now you'll know which rides he likes and you can come back again to play"
I had to turn away as i started to cry. i was totally surprised and overcome with emotion. i wasnt expecting a free pass. i was expecting to tire yossi out so he would sit long enough for me to pay (we came without the stroller). her offer to pay at the end made so much sense because as yossi gets bigger not all things are practical for him to do. i was amazed at how naturally she accommodated us and at her kind gesture. you can bet we will go there again!

as yossi gets older we are more limited and i always have the worry of the future on my mind.  im encouraged to know that there are people who care and see my child to be just like any other. and im overwhelmed and thankful for those people who go out of the way to help yossi enjoy his childhood.

Seesaw

I'm up, you're down
we're not on common ground

when im sad you're happy
then my sadness pulls you down

I pick myself up and start anew
but now i'm worried about you

you're rushed, frustrated, and stressed
I'll try my very best

to put the pieces back together
so at ease you can rest

I wish i can wave away the hurt with a magic wand
and accomplish everything with the flick of a thumb

Instead im moving forward minute by minute
until once again im weary

cuz i cant make more hours in a day
but your optimism is still catchy

there is something to look forward to
but i just have to find it

buried under the daily monotony
 i just need to uncover it

visit a friend and energize
a prayer lifts a weight off my heart

now im ready again to face reality
everything looks brighter

now as we tread carefully through life
we'll keep each other steady

chosen

there are millions of people in the world
each one is chosen, handpicked by G-d
put here in this world for something special

that special something isnt fame
it isnt fortune
it isnt to be an inventor
or a trendsetter

we are each chosen for something unique
each has a role to play
each little piece of our lives carefully chosen.
part of a bigger picture

every place we live,
everything that happens to us
every step we take
and every choice we make
we are chosen,

we are chosen to be inspired
we are chosen to uplift

sometimes we are lucky enough to appreciate
the pieces as they come together
everything so mundane and insignificant
woven into an intricate web or reason

to see it clearly  takes my breath away,
to marvel at the wonder that is life
and at the creator that chose us